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How I run my business authentically?

Life is a lot easier when you know who you are and what matters to you. This had been an issue for me since I grew up always doing things to fit in, even though I knew deep down I was not supposed to be doing it. And then it was an issue for me again as I decided to elevate my youtube channel here. With that came the pressure of looking perfect for the videos. In the end, I decided to do what is true for me, I am a simple girl. I like to stay natural as much as possible, which means not coloring my grey hair, minimal or no makeup. Because nothing matters except for what you feel about yourself. Nobody should be able to take your confidence, your smile, or your dreams away from you. Don't be afraid to be yourself, that's what authenticity means to me. I hope you receive this message.

Nav Scheie Coaching is dedicated to the ultimate form of self-expression: the ability to create, shape, and design ourselves and our lives fully. 

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Why we should define success and How to?

When I am working with my career coaching clients, I notice that many of them chase goals without defining what success means to them.

If you don't know what success looks like for you, then today's episode is for you.

I am going to show you why its important to define your own success and then how to define your own success. 

I used to chase goals with a lot of ambition and after a lot of sacrifices I would make it to the destination and crush the goals I had set for myself. There was only one problem. I would not take the time to really celebrate, like it wasn't a big deal and then just get my eyes set on another goal, bigger than last time. I started to loathe goal setting and I was not feeling good in the process either.

Can you relate?

Then I learned the concept of "defining what success means to me" ...something personal to me. Not a concept or definition of someone else...which left to default can be about materialism (Money, Status, Brand Names, having a certain body figure, having a certain skin tone etc.) and the thing with materialism is that its never enough and it doesn't fulfill you!

For me, I define success by being "Lit-up in my work", "practicing courage in my everyday life, taking risk and making mistakes", and "feeling excited serving my audience"...NOTICE this doesn't include a money figure, its not about hitting a certain weight goal....its focused more on the process and FEELING GOOD.

Check out the video above on how to define your own success.

Let us know below which tip you will be applying and what is the new definition of your success.

Video Post: Do you suffer from "I have no time" Syndrome

Do you often find yourself saying, "Man, life is so busy. I have no time to do anything!"

If so, today's episode is for you.

I am going to show you 3 quick ways you can use to "create more time in your busy calendar".

For the last 3 months, I have been working on a project called FEEL GOOD TV to bring videos on Youtube to you in a professional manner. I am so happy to reveal them to you 1st, before anyone else because you are a special community.

The content on FEEL GOOD TV will  serve Professional Working Women (& some cool men) who have a desire to grow your Career, Confidence and Consciousness all while feeling good in life!

I started making videos on my phone in 2015 and started a channel Nav Scheie Coaching. You will find over 80 videos on motivation and inspiration. Be sure to SUBSCRIBE to the Youtube Channel so you get benefit when you most need it!

Thank you from the bottom of my heart for continuing to give us your gift of time and attention <3 I appreciate you.

I am also open to feedback on the video above, complimentary or constructive criticism is welcomed. Just hit reply and let me know your thoughts.

How Coaching Works?

I can explain the process of coaching to you in words. or in pictures. But I like fast, quick explanations. This video created by EverLeadCoaches is the best for explaining what coaching is about how it can help you. 

I have also created a video about my coaching and why I do what I do. Check it out below.

If Coaching is something that you need to improve an area of your life, check out my free coaching session here:

Dealing with Difficult Times In Life

I speak from experience. I share tips that have helped me in my experience and would like to pass on the wisdom because I believe in Sharing. Sharing is caring.

Today, I share with you my tips on how to navigate through the difficult times in our life. We all have them and it happens from time and time that we find ourselves stuck even though we want to feel better.

If you liked the video and want more content to "Elevate Your Thinking", be sure to subscribe to the Youtube Channel where I post a weekly inspirational toolkit video every Monday:

So tell me, what are some of your tips to dealing with difficult times in your life? I'd love to know!

What is RYSE? Raise Your Spiritual Energy (Movement)

Last month, I spoke to you about R.Y.S.E. 

R.Y.S.E = Raise Your Spiritual Energy

I got such positive responses. Some of you that relate to the message wrote back. Thank you.

Since RYSE is my life purpose, I am in the process of designing my whole life to my life purpose so every thing works in alignment. Today, I want to take 1 of he 5 life areas and share with you what changes I have been making.  

In the life area of Food & Wellness, I am making the following commitments to R.Y.S.E (Raise my Spiritual Energy)

A) I am working on releasing all refined sugar from my diet. 
B) I am also working on minimizing "low spiritual energy foods" such as meat & alcohol. 

C) I will be eating more "colored foods" as they increase our spiritual energy (veggies and fruits); colored foods also effect different chakras in our body.

To help with the above goals, I have made more changes to my environment:

1) I have chucked/given away all refined sugar items from my fridge - candy, chocolate, cake, package brownies etc. (Can you tell how addicted I was to sugar? Its in everything).

2) I have bought more vegetables and fruits. I eat an orange, or grapes, or an apple when I have a sugar craving.

3) I also learned how to make healthy brownies  at home (sugar free, gluten free). Here is the link:

The brownies in the fridge helps in those weak moments when fruit won't cut the sugar craving.

Now, your turn: What is 1 goal can you work on - in the life area of Food & Wellness to raise your spiritual energy field? Let us know over below in the comments below.

*If you are having trouble coming up with a goal in this area - start here - Focus on HOW YOU FEEL after eating certain food* - having awareness with your food is a good place to start. Keep a Food Journal.

If you or you have a friend that wants to release sugar from her diet, make changes to her diet to raise the bar on her energy levels, please share this with her. She will thank you! <3 

Achieve success, love, Inner Peace, and happiness without much effort (Introducing R.Y.S.E.)

The above picture of me is on a beach in Mexico recently on a vacation.

The above picture is also me FEELING GOODbecause my spiritual energy was raised.

Today, I want to introduce you to one of my creative projects that I will be working on for the next few months to RYSE. 

R.Y.S.E = Raise Your Spiritual Energy

See, for the last 7 years, I have been asking myself some deep questions: What am I doing on Earth? What is the purpose of my life? Why did I choose to birth myself in this human experience? What am I here to learn?

But the answers did not come easily at first, they are coming through years and years of life experiences.

I meditated deeply on my questions on my vacation and something very simple rose to the surface. I am clearer than ever - as to what my life purpose is for being on earth. Infact, that is the Life Purpose of all of us.Life Purpose is to RYSE (Raise My Spiritual Energy) so that I can live to my HIGHEST POTENTIAL and complete my dharma and evolve. I know I have also come here to teach and elevate others on the journey of spreading love to help you RYSE also. Let's RYSE so we can have all the love, success and happiness. 

I believe that "It's not that I am a human being having a spiritual experience" but that "I am a spirit having a human experience".Because I believe that I am spirit, my body is made up of matter and underneath the matter are the atoms, which all vibrate at energy, so while I am in a physical form - my essence is energy. I believe that we are all energies walking around day to day living our lives having one human experience after another.

Now, more than ever I believe its time for me to step into my true purpose and Raise my spiritual Energy because I am a spirit. We all are. It's that if I take care of myself, maintain my spiritual energy vibration levels, I attract high vibration realities which is success, health, wealth, happiness, love etc. The challenge however is, how to maintain the high energies in our life. That's where the RYSE project will help us.

But if I don't ever tend to level up my spiritual energy bank, then I am running at a low vibration. Because I maintain a fairly low vibration, I attract life reality that is also vibrating at a lower frequencies. So I attract diseases, tense neck and shoulders, deeply addicted to sugar, feelings of guilt, shame, self-doubt and judgement.

I came back from my vacation with enlightened clarity that I am going to step into my Life Purpose through RYSE.

I have started the process already in my life - cleaning up 5 life areas. 

The 3 life areas where I am starting the process are listed below, starting with Food & Body, Faith & Rituals, and Work & Business. 

I will reveal the other 2 categories next time.


What Happens AFTER a Desire Map Workshop?

You feel CLEAR


Now, you know where you were going WRONG

Everything makes SENSE now



Or You change EVERYTHING that has been holding you back, now that you see what IT IS.

You become an "Unstoppable" Sky Rocket,, which is heading UPWARDS with a direct aim, because you are clear

and  FUELED.

You leave the workshop all FUELED UP!

You feel clear on YOUR DESIRES - How you want to feel everyday, when you go to bed, when you are at work.


You also leave with a plan on how to ignite "those feelings" that make you feel good! 

We are now hosting a 1-day Desire Map workshop on April 30.

You can find other information and registration details here:


Nav Scheie

Make 2016 Valentine's Day different

Make this Valentine's Day different.

Make it about you. Love Yourself, in a way you feel worthy.

Don't wait on the world to make you call you worthy.

Don't wait on your husband, or loved ones, or partner to tell you how much they love you.

Tell it to yourself. You know what makes you feel happy.


If its a bouquet of fresh flowers - get it for yourself.

If its a spa treatment - treat yourself for a date with yourself.

If its a movie and dinner - take yourself on a lavish date (Take a book with you, I have been told).

If its someone doing your housework for you - take a break today, get on the phone, and hire a maid for a day.

If it is someone writing you a love letter - write that love letter to yourself in your journal. Accept, Celebrate all that you are in that letter. 

If it is a greeting card in the mail - write someone you appreciate a love letter, you will feel more love around you!

The best kind of love and appreciation is the ONE YOU GIVE TO YOURSELF.

 If you don't love yourself, you possibly cannot attract more love into your life.

If you don't love yourself, you will not notice all the love around you.

If you don't love yourself, you will be always at the mercy of others and you cannot control others. You cannot manipulate others. You only control yourself.

Break the armour off of your heart, for 1 day, treat yourself well.

Today is THE DAY to love yourself. Every day is a special day but today is extra special.

"How you treat yourself is how you treat GOD" 

Letter to the Universe

Some days, we don't feel our best. 

I am sure you can relate.

When I struggle, instead of focusing on how I am feeling today or in this moment, I reach for a better "feeling" thought.

And for me, that's a thought of SURRENDER. 

Surrendering to who I am becoming and who I am no more.

Surrendering to what is working in life and what is not.

Surrendering to Life's possibilities and letting life happen - whether I like it or not.

I wrote a "Letter to the universe" today. A simple message of surrendering.

*This is a tool I use from my toolkit to clear my head and align it with my heart center. Its works EVERY TIME!*

Dear Universe. I trust you. I trust that everything I want, you will bring me the ways to manifest it. I will be waiting for your signs. I will stay awake day after day to learn the “how”. All I know is what I want. What I want is based on my feelings. This is what I want to feel in my life (body, health, business, work, relationships, essence and spirituality).



Co-creator with You

 Being in Surrender – letting you call the shots

Free of the internal war/mind games

Love (in and around me)


With what I know today, I am falling into struggle, resistance, doubt, lack mentality. Feeling grief, giving into the drama my mind creates where I am in the lead role.Leading this role has left me feeling fried, drained, tired, not enough, not having enough, not loved, unworthy of happiness now and in the future. I have had enough. I can't carry on like this anymore. Its too difficult. I know there is a better way. A way of co-creating with you.

I am in surrender and let you take control. 

With All my Love,


If you are familiar with the work I do with Desire Mapping, you'll notice I am reaching for the "feelings" in my letter as a way of knowing that I am "on the right track". It helps me immensely to know that whatever decisions I am making in life are making me FEEL GOOD AT THE END OF THE DAY! 

If you would like to know "How do you most want to feel?" and "How you would never like to feel again?" Join us for an in-person Desire Map workshop here to get clear and start making CHOICES THAT MAKE YOU HAPPY:

How to Make Choices that “Free” You

Hello Friends!

 I hope your 2016 is off to a great start. If not, then keep on reading!

Question: Have you ever felt stuck in life wherein there is something you really want to do but are unable to do it? You are unable to start your plans as you find yourself saying, “What would so and so think or say about me if I pushed through with my plans or endeavors?”

Studying evolution, I have understood that the “dumb part” of our brain wants safety. It wants to be accepted and loved by everyone ALL THE TIME.

I call it the “dumb part” of the brain because it hasn’t evolved yet to realize that we only want to be liked and accepted by our close friends and family. However, our mind wants to please the world, wants to be loved by EVERY ONE.

Have you realized how busy you are in your life to actually notice other people’s activities?  How often do we think about other people’s lives and what they are doing? Not much…right?

So by that logic, I can’t possibly expect the world to love me, all the time. Heck! No one has even got time to pay attention to their own lives, let alone watch my every move and judge me on how I am doing!

Living day to day, I have to tell myself that I am accepted and so loved by my close family and friends. That they accept me for all I do and won’t judge me but rather understand all the choices I make in my life. I watch myself and don’t allow the “dumb” part of my brain to control me. I control it!

I watch the “dumb part” as it tries to tell me how I must do things in my life so as to be liked by everyone. But I ignore it and completely disregard the notions it tries to convey . . . that I have to live my life based on the world’s expectations.

I feel SO FREE when I do the things that I know brings me joy.

The story that I just told you is what I struggle with sometimes and I know that you do too. So, I decided to share and tell you what got me out of this rut! I am human and my emotions get stuck in a rut too. The “dumb part” of the brain takes over and I find myself making decisions to please everyone but me!

Since Christmas, I felt foggy, not centered, sluggish, dealing with grief thoughts, and life felt like a rough uphill battle until yesterday when I realized that I am AGAIN making choices to please the world and ignoring myself, my needs and my wants.

Whenever I struggle in life now, it’s not long until I find myself using the systems I have in place (my tested and tried methods which I also teach to other people because they work). I use these systems so I can put my emotions aside and look at a situation objectively and move forward. This is the Desire Mapping System that I teach at my workshops called Desire Map workshops. The next workshop will be on February 27 and 28, 2016 (Register at on or before February 6, 2016 and avail of our “Early Bird” Promo for discounts).

Back to the story, I looked at how I most wanted to feel and I realized that I was nowhere near how I wanted to feel. Some of my Core Desired Feelings (CDFs) are to feel: Courageous, Connected within and Joyful. However, what I was actually feeling was “Small, Disconnected and Joyless”. No wonder I was struggling!

I then truly and authentically decided no longer to lie to myself and be totally real. To be true to what my needs are. I now feel so JOYFUL taking care of my true needs and not giving a rat’s ass about what anyone else thinks.

So my CDFs of feeling Courageous, Connected within and Joyfulness have lifted me out of the fogginess that my brain was in and has taken me closer to how I MOST WANT TO FEEL.

Heading into 2016, I KNOW What I want most, how I want to feel and what I need to stop doing and START doing to feel HOW I MOST WANT TO FEEL.

I feel so free, clear and excited!

Now I want this for you~ So, I invite you to come to the next Desire Map - DM workshop and if you are interested in learning this system too and want to sign up for the virtual workshops (keep your eyes out for an upcoming save the date link) in the newsletter in 2016.

Thank you again for supporting us in 2015 and we look forward to serving you in 2016!

The Story Behind

Hi Everyone!

Here is a great story that I came upon that had me stop and reflect. The narrative showed the essence  of  being truly Kind-Hearted and Generous. However, the other side of the story then showed how our  emotions clearly affect our judgement especially during times that we are in the process of making Life Changing decisions in our lives.

When our emotions are high, chances are the way we rationalize things or situations will be on its  all- time low. This leads to  us missing out  on details or  facts that  could  later  on  make  us regret  the  decision  that  we  had  made in  haste. Oftentimes, we  make the  mistake  of seeing only the Tree but not the Forest! Always try to learn the story behind the story . . .

So, go ahead read, enjoy and reflect on the story as I did.

Learn to Appreciate

Once upon a time, there was a man who was very helpful, kindhearted, and generous. He was a man  who  will  help  someone  without  asking  anything to pay him back. He will help someone because he wants to and he loves to.  One day while walking into a dusty road, this man saw a purse,  so  he picked it up and  noticed  that  the purse  was empty.  Suddenly  a woman with  a policeman shows up and gets him arrested.

The woman kept on asking where did he hide her money but the man replied, “It was empty when I found it, Mam.” The woman yelled at him, “Please give it back, it’s for my son’s school fees.”  The man noticed that the woman really felt sad, so he handed all his money.  He could say   that  the  woman   was  a  single  mother.   The  man   said, “Take   these,   sorry  for  the inconvenience.”  The woman left and policeman held the man for further questioning.

The woman was very happy but when she counted her money later on, it was doubled, she was shocked.  One  day  while woman  was going to pay  her  son’s school fees towards the school, she noticed that some skinny man was walking behind her.  She thought that he may rob her, so she approached a policeman standing nearby.  He was the same policeman, who she took along to inquire about her purse.  The woman told him about the man following her, but suddenly they saw that man collapsing.  They ran at him, and saw that he was the same man whom they arrested few days back for stealing a purse.

He looked very weak and woman was confused.  The policeman said to the woman, “He didn’t return your money; he gave you his money that day.  He wasn’t the thief but hearing about you son’s school fees, he felt sad and gave you his money.”  Later, they helped man stand up, and man told the woman, “Please go ahead and pay your son’s school fees, I saw you and followed you to be sure that no one steals your son’s school fees.”   The woman was speechless.

Moral:  Life  gives  you  strange  experiences,  sometime  it  shocks you and sometimes it may surprise you. We end up making wrong judgments or mistakes in our anger, desperation and frustration.  However,  when you get  a second chance,  correct  your mistakes and return the favor. Be Kind and Generous. Learn to Appreciate what you are given.

Self-Love: Accept and Celebrate Who You Are!

Christmas trees have started to be taken down, Christmas decorations and lights are carefully being stored in boxes for next year’s use and even that lovely mistletoe wreath by the doorway is slowly but surely finding its way to storage. Yes, it’s true! The Yuletide Season is over.

But fret no more! Because this means that the Beautiful and Romantic Month of Love is Coming! February, the month that simultaneously makes hearts leap and gives warm feelings to all lovers. That period where people go out looking for ways to express their love and affection to Wives, Partners and Girlfriends.

However, in the craze and confusion of it all, we often forget to practice the most important kind of love – SELF-LOVE!   Healthy Self-Love is defined as “A state of appreciation for one’s own self that develops from actions that support a person’s Physical, Psychological and Spiritual growth.” The acceptance of one’s Strengths and Opportunities, which if genuinely done leads to the individual “Feeling Good” and “Feeling Free”.

So right now,

Does your life feel the way you want it to feel?

Do you feel comfortable with your own body?

It seems so obvious right? Life should feel good!

These and much more is what I am offering those who will attend the “Self-Love: Accept and Celebrate Who You Are! (Featuring: Desire Mapping Workshop) with Nav Scheie Coaching” scheduled on February 27-28, 2016 from 10:00AM – 4:00PM. Please note that this is an “All Ladies Workshop”.

Join me and a small group of like-minded wome for a weekend of coaching, sharing, reflection time, and movements through a relaxing Yoga class, a Zumba class and with essential oils samples and other gifts to take home as well. All of these backed by a great music playlist and tied together with shared intentions.

Allow me to guide you through the Five (5) Life Areas to achieve a “LIFE CLEANSE”.

• Lifestyle + Livelihood
• Creativity + Learning
• Body + Wellness
• Relationships + Society
• Essence + Spirituality

So it’s a date! Go ahead and Register at


Closing 2015 Correctly; Starting 2016 Right!

“Start 2016 Right – Desire Map Level 1” is the name that I aptly chose for the very 1st workshop that I will be conducting this coming January 17 & 24, 2016 from 10AM – 4PM at the Iron Goddess Kickboxing Studios in Sherwood Park, Edmonton and Area, AB.

The workshop is aimed at preparing all participants for 2016. However, as I was going through some of the materials I will be covering during the workshop, I came across this “Gem of a Writing” from Paolo Coelho (Author of The Alchemist and Brida) regarding the importance of genuinely “Closing Cycles” before being able to Truly Start new chapters in our lives.

An excellent reading to reflect on as we close 2015 and begin 2016.


By Paolo Coelho

One always has to know when a stage comes to an end. If we insist on staying longer than the necessary time, we lose the happiness and the meaning of the other stages we have to go through. Closing cycles, shutting doors, ending chapters – whatever name we give it, what matters is to leave in the past the moments of life that have finished.

Did you lose your job? Has a loving relationship come to an end? Did you leave your parents’ house? Gone to live abroad? Has a long-lasting friendship ended all of a sudden? You can spend a long time wondering why this has happened.

You can tell yourself you won’t take another step until you find out why certain things that were so important and so solid in your life have turned into dust, just like that. But such an attitude will be awfully stressing for everyone involved: your parents, your husband or wife, your friends, your children, your sister. Everyone is finishing chapters, turning over new leaves, getting on with life, and they will all feel bad seeing you at a standstill.

Things pass, and the best we can do is to let them really go away.

That is why it is so important (however painful it may be!) to destroy souvenirs, move, give lots of things away to orphanages, sell or donate the books you have at home.

Everything in this visible world is a manifestation of the invisible world, of what is going on in our hearts – and getting rid of certain memories also means making some room for other memories to take their place. Let things go. Release them. Detach yourself from them.

Nobody plays this life with marked cards, so sometimes we win and sometimes we lose. Do not expect anything in return, do not expect your efforts to be appreciated, your genius to be discovered, your love to be understood.

Stop turning on your emotional television to watch the same program over and over again, the one that shows how much you suffered from a certain loss: that is only poisoning you, nothing else.

Nothing is more dangerous than not accepting love relationships that are broken off, work that is promised but there is no starting date, and decisions that are always put off waiting for the “ideal moment.”

Before a new chapter is begun, the old one has to be finished: tell yourself that what has passed will never come back. Remember that there was a time when you could live without that thing or that person – nothing is irreplaceable, a habit is not a need. This may sound so obvious, it may even be difficult, but it is very important.

Closing cycles, not because of pride, incapacity or arrogance, but simply because it no longer fits your life.

Shut the door, change the record, clean the house, shake off the dust.

Stop being who you were, and change into who you are. - P. Coelho

Happy New Year, Everyone!

How to Feel “UNSTOPPABLE” in Pursuing your Goals in 2016

The New Year of 2016 is just around the corner. And for a lot of people the coming of a brand new year is always synonymous with that of a “New Start”. This is the period where the opportunity to change anything or everything that is currently happening in one’s life can be done. The time for making New Year Resolutions, the time for drafting new plans and pursuing new goals.

Pursuing your goals whether they are new goals or even old ones is definitely a step in the right direction in our Life’s Journey towards Success. However, having goals is not enough. For there are other vitals elements that must be present like that of plans on how to achieve your goal/s, consistently execution of the plan/s, follow through on the plan/s and also a measure of success so you would know if it’s working or not.

The year 2015 was a challenging one for me when I decided to pursue some of the things that I wanted (My Life Goals). I came out battle scarred but from my point of view, Triumphant!

With this, I wanted to share with you “My Learnings” from the past year. My purpose is to help all of you become “Unstoppable” in 2016 when it came to pursuing your goals!

If you feel confused or at a lost regarding your Career Path or you need a Life Coach for Guidance and Direction, then feel free to avail of my Free Assessment / Coaching at

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True Happiness can be Achieved!

TGIF! (Thank God It’s Friday)

Another workweek has just passed and the good news is that . . . We Survived It! Hurray for Us! Now, we are looking at the weekends. The land of family, loved ones, friends, rest, recreation and of course HAPPINESS!

And to put things in the right perspective for your “Weekend Mode”, let’s start it off with a “Happy Thought” and what else can be happier than “Happiness” itself. Most of the time, we depict our search for genuine happiness as a never-ending pursuit. A lot of times, people look for True Bliss inside other people, places or things. However, the truth of the matter is simple . . . “You make or create your own happiness in life.”

The formation of Lasting and Pure Happiness starts from deep within YOU! It begins with your decision to be truly happy, followed by your choices that make it happen and capped off with the goals that you set in order to achieve the level of happiness that you are aiming for.

Level of Happiness, you might ask. Yes, there is such because aside from us having different concepts of what makes us happy, there is also the fact that some of us are already satisfied with simple forms of happiness while others need a more intricate kind. You would have to discover “The Level” that is suited for you through your constant attempts to know what truly makes you happy. Would you believe that the journey is going to be Fun and . . . Happy?

However, before you rush into things, kindly keep in mind that there are also Two (2) types of happiness. One is Genuine Happiness, which we all seek for in our lifetimes. The 2nd type is referred to as “Fleeting Happiness”

Fleeting Happiness are joyous feelings that end or have an expiration date on them. Examples of this type of happiness are those of winning a game or of getting a promotion at work.

Set your goals to always aim for those that fall under the Permanent Type of Happiness and surprisingly, those that are considered Fleeting Happiness Types will be achieved along the way of your journey towards True and Pure Happiness.

So look deep within yourself and then ask . . . what does TRUE HAPPINESS look like to me? And then start creating your goals. Be Happy and Stay Happy!

True Friends! True Gems!

One time as I was doing my groceries, I ran into a former neighbor, an old lady that I have not seen in years. We got into a conversation and at one point, our topic swung towards that of the friends that she had. And I was struck by a statement that she said which has haunted me until now. She said: “I have come into a stage in my life where I realized that I have Many Acquaintances but very Few Friends.”

I found that statement so simple but had a profound truth! We meet and come to know a lot of people (acquaintances) but among possibly hundreds, only a handful or even less become our “True Friends”.

“A friend in need is a friend indeed” sums up my definition of what a True Blue Friend is. A genuine friend is not only there during your happiness and triumphs but should be even more inseparable from you during your times of struggles and sorrow. This is a person who possibly even knows you better than yourself. Lucky and Happy should be the individual who have such persons in their lives.

These are the kind of friends that we can draw strength from when we are faced with enormous challenges in our lives that seem insurmountable. They can be in the form of family members, workmates or even schoolmates. True friends can come in different forms, shapes and sizes. Again, do not be discouraged if you find them very few in numbers because truth is, when it comes to real friendship, it’s Quality over Quantity.

So once you do find them, Cherish them, Appreciate them and do not hesitate to share with them your burdens for they really value such trust and openness.

 Finally, as you sort and look for these gems among your current acquaintances and friends, please do not forget to also be a True Friend to the ones you have for Love and Kindness goes both ways. 

What Kind of Magnet are You?

When I was still young, someone asked me what kind of magnet I was?  To which I readily answered with “I am a person and not a magnet.” (young, naïve and did not attempt to clarify the question) As years past, I came to realize that what the question was really asking was . . . “What do you attract as a person?”

“The Law of Attraction” states that “you attract what you exude.” Another way of putting it is that most of the time, people get attracted or drawn to persons who are also displaying what they are feeling. “Misery loves company”, “Surround yourselves with positive people” and “Stay Positive” are but some of the sayings that indicate that your condition or where you are at in life right now is greatly influenced by your attitude or outlook in life.

This kind of thinking was aptly summed up by this quote from Lao Tzu. “Watch your Thoughts for they become Words. Watch your Words for they become Actions. Watch your Actions for they become Habits. Watch your Habits for they become Character. Watch your Character for it becomes your Destiny.”

So what kind of MAGNET are YOU? Do you give out and thereby attract Positive or Negative energy? It’s never too late to start changing your polarity . . . your attitude. Start drawing in those Positive Vibes and end up being a true blessing to everyone around you.

Overwhelmed! Is that you?

Tomorrow is Wednesday . . . Wow! I survived Monday and Tuesday! Just 3 days more and I will be scot-free once again . . . weekends! Hearing yourself saying the same speech?

It’s already the middle of the week! How time flies when you are having fun! So . . . how is everyone’s energy level? Chances are, your answers will be. . . “Energy level is already low!”, “I feel tired”, “What?! It’s just Wednesday? You sure?”, “I feel overwhelmed!” and the ever famous “I hate my job!”

Mondays though sometimes slow in starting eventually pick up during that day due to the ample energy reserves that you were able to store during the weekend break. However, as the week progresses these get depleted so that by Wednesday, one may already feel tired, stuck and massively overwhelmed by the thought of activities, projects or chores that are before them. The reason you might ask? Well, the answer is because “You are doing insane”. Yes, you heard me right. Not “Going” but “Doing” INSANE.

Why, you might ask? It’s because one definition of Insanity is “Doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results”.  Having a routine is a great thing to have. It allows you to do things automatically without much effort due to “muscle memory”. It’s like your body is on remote control. However, it can easily lead to monotony and boredom in what you are doing since you are no longer being challenged. This situation can quickly zap those precious energy reserves that you have.

So what can you do? Small changes, experimentation or variations is the key.  Try to make slight changes on how you do things at work or at home.  They don’t need to be big adjustments but just small ones like maybe that of trying a different route on your way to work, trying to complete a task using another method to do it or something simple as changing what you have for breakfast.  This not only breaks the monotony, but also even gives one a chance to learn a new thing.  Allow you to discover how to do something easier and quicker or to learn one of the ways on how not to do it. A challenge or a change can help alleviate or divert your attention from feelings or thoughts of being “Overwhelmed”.

So what changes are dawning to you right now that will help you conserve that much needed energy and enthusiasm you have? Remember every drop of energy you save can be re-directed to a worthwhile cause may that be with your career, with your family or towards that of achieving your dreams.