My Golden Nuggets from Simon Sinek’s book of Leaders Eat Last


Difference between good leaders and great leaders

Leadership is a skill, can be learned and practiced. Leaders don’t consider themselves experts, they consider themselves students and act like it.

Good Leader is someone who is learning and is practicing, implementing what they learned around them.

A Great Leader: 

  • Well practiced and really understand prioritizing the needs of others around them more than themselves. 
  • Great leaders are willing to run head first into the unknown, into the dangerous. They have constant hunger to improve themselves, like a parent. You will never be an expert at parenting but you can always improve more and more. 
  • They don’t think of their rank as something they have achieved but rather as a stepping stone for learning more about themselves and others around them.

How to inspire greatness in just yourself but also around you?

There is power of environment, when we get the environment right, people around you and rise to greatness.

We are social animals, and we draw our happiness from our relationships. If you put people in good, safe and nourishing environments, we will naturally get trust and cooperation from the people in those environments. Trust and Cooperation are feelings and they are not instructions like you cannot tell someone to trust the leader, its different than feeling like you want to trust because you feel safe.

And leaders are responsible for creating that environment.

Likewise, if a team is working in an environment of fear each other, what you will cultivate in that environment is paranoid, cynicism, mistrust and self-interest. 

Most leaders think leadership is about being in charge, no, Simon says its about you being responsible for the people you are in charge of.

Then most leaders think everybody works for them, no, the leader works for their people. Make your people feel safe and they will give you their blood, sweat and tears to advance your vision. All they ask is you take care of them, hear them, see them. If you don’t take care of them, then they rise to protect themselves from their own leaders. 

We want people to give us their best of thinking.

Question to reflect on: How safe do you feel where you work? Does my team feel safe?

Disclaimer: Safety doesn’t mean there is no discipline, you cant get inn trouble, its not a charity where people just float along.

There is enough threat outside of your workplace, there is enough pressure that we don’t have control over.

But what is in leaders control is the environment and it is their responsibility - the environment to grow, the opportunity to build confidence, to build their best self, the opportunity to love the people I work with, the opportunity to go to work and enjoy it, opportunity to interact and build relationships. the opportunity to fail and try and try and try again and again.

What is Work Life Balance and how can we as a leader offer that to our staff?

Work life balance also speaks to the ability to feel safe. When there is work life imbalance, that is because someone feels safe at home but not at work or vice-versa, someone feels safe at work but not at home, that is what Work life imbalance eludes to, Simon says.

No amount of yoga or offering free lunch will cover the feeling of feeling unsafe at work. You need to show leadership and find out how people will feel safe and then take measurements or initiative accordingly for them to feel trust again.

If as a leader fears your own people, its because the leader isn’t taking care of their people.

How do we identify Leaders? How do I prep myself to be a Leader? 

We call someone a leader not because you are in charge, but they went first into the unknown, 1st towards the danger, 1st to take care of the people around them.

Simon says sometimes there are people at the top of the career ladder, they have all the authority but aren’t a leader (not taking care of the people around them). We as workers don’t wanna follow their vision or give them the hard work, sweat and tears. Then there are people at the bottom of the organization,  and are a leader because they know how to foster that safe environment for the people they work around and know how to take care of the people around them.

So leadership has nothing to do with authority, it has to do with - are you taking care of people around you? Having a position of authority simply means you have scalability or the ability to influence more people. 

Who can be a Leader? 

We ALL have the capability to be a leader, its not just for some of us! As social animals, it feels good to take care of others, to help others. And if it is so natural to us, its our instinct to take care of each other and so it feels so good when someone does something awesome for us without any expectations. It also feels good to help others.

Taking care of others releases Oxytocin, a feel good chemical. Taking care of others, being taken care of, even watching a generous act releasing the same chemical. This is possible only in an environment where we are able to take care of each other.

Benefits of being a good leader vs not?

When you do leadership right aka create environments where we take care of people around us - you are actually medically enhancing their well being, leading to happier workers who then go home and have happier families, happy people live longer.

Vs Bad leadership is medically killing people over time, where there is high stress and high anxiety, there is less empathy given the bad environment, bursting their immune systems, Cortisol is high.

What is leadership about really?

So leadership is not about the company, its not about the leading the company, you can run a company. Leadership is about leading the people. Mostly, someone gets promoted to a leadership position because they know how to do the work and now they get to be responsible for the people for the job you used to do. But no one is teaching these leaders how to take care of their people. And so of-course, leaders end up being managers because thats why I got promoted because I know how to do your job. We have to go through this transition, you are no longer responsible for the results, you are responsible for the people who have to get you the results. 

What are the characteristics of a great leader? And how can I take some actions to develop myself as a leader?

This leadership skills are students, it requires learning and practice. Its something has to be learned. Leaders talk about leadership, like golfers talk about golfers. Study Leadership. We all can, look around us and see leaders. It takes practice and its a daily practice. Its about putting others lives before us. 

It starts outside of work, it can. Its a muscle, has to be built.. small changes, daily practice, and if you practice a lot, you get better.

Hope you found this to be helpful. If you did, what is one thing you will implement?

This made me sad...


I had a beautiful women reach out to me for a discovery session few weeks ago. She was feeling very frustrated at the time of the call, struggling with her job (managing 2 jobs at work, feeling unengaged, not wanting to go to work and struggling at home with her husband, not feeling loved or connected, and not wanting to go home after work). When she saw the results she could have working together, excitedly she said yes to our work together! I couldn't be more happier for she herself and her life was about to change!

I personally love it when women take ownership of how life has been hard on them (or there lack of no emotional support and they are on the verge of breaking).

Then after a day, I get the email of "I am not too sure and would like money back"


Now, this is SO NORMAL. She definitely was not the 1st one!

When we sign up to change our lives, most of us go in our heads to verify if we made the right decision and our "fearful mind" says...a 1000 What-if's. Then comes the usual war between mind and heart. The heart likes to take risks, longs to fly, wants to feel excitement and do the right thing. But we (me included) are naturally wired to hear the mind....and this gentle soul.....decided to listen to her mind. 

Listening to fearful mind....will change NOTHING for her and she will continue to feel safe and unhappy! That was her choice and I honour that that is where she is today.

This saddened me for a day......for her.....It truly did. I care a lot about my clients...most clients turn friends and family for me after their lives change for the better, after they feel like they are a new person. (Check out these amazing women's transformations)

But then I checked myself and thought, "She is doing her best today! This is all she knows and that is what she is willing to do today!" and then I CHOSE to let it a balloon shooting up in the air and eventually disappearing... (This is personal growth work linked to Attachment)

I only work with committed women that want an amazing life and are ready to "FEEL THE FEAR AND DO IT ANYWAY". I am all-compassion coach when it comes to supporting you to get clear on what an ideal life and career looks like for you...PURSUING the not EASY and that is why I DEEPLY HONOUR the women who are "Feeling the fear and doing it anyway", who are stepping out of comfort zones, women who have come to the workshops to be heard and seen and lets not forget the brave souls who chose to pursue our coaching work together! We need more women in the world....that takes a chance on themselves.....that build courage muscles...and take ownership of their lives.

NO ONE IS COMING TO SAVE YOU! NO ONE. You have got to love you....Be the best you can be....for yourself. BEC it fucking feels SO GOOD to believe in yourself and just GO FOR IT.

Listen: YOU ARE AT THE HEART OF ALL EXPERIENCES IN YOUR LIFE. If you don't like the experiences you are having, it means you need to GROW. Period. Nothing else will help.

A new pair of shoes won't help, complaining to friends won't help, more books won't help.....only dealing with fear and taking action would!

Here is what I have to say about FEAR....

Fear is the thing that stops us in our tracks! Fear does keep us safe but most of the time when there is no real safety issue, it kicks in even harder because you have given it power in the past. 

Moving through your fear does not feel good! THAT'S RIGHT. Because we are shaking up the old programming. As you work through your fears, you’ll usually feel nauseous, tired, angry, or upset while you are going through the process.

This is your ego trying to keep you safe. In order to deal with these emotions, it’s important that you do radical self care while plowing through your fears. Work with a coach, Get massages, take long baths, do yoga, hang out with people you love. This type of care will give you the energy you need to face those fears.

I think we can call use the learnings here, "For the next 10 days, what type of radical self care I am willing to do so that I can start with facing my one of the smallest fears and start building some courage muscles?"......Consider facing these fears: maybe its going out with no makeup on, or maybe its speaking up at work, or in work meetings about your true thoughts, or saying no, its showing up to a yoga/fitness class....or anything. Find something that you are scared to face and see if in 10 days, you can face it. 

Let me know in the comments below, what fear are you willing to face? The fear I am willing to face is...signing up for a fitness trainer. My fearful mind keeps thinking - You won't show up to the classes, don't waste money, or time or effort. What will people think if you don't show up because as a coach, you are not allowed to fail?"....

Can you see how wrong this fearful mind thinks and how wrong it is? I have faced enough of my fears to NOW know that "my mind forecast" is never as reality when I just GO FOR IT! 

I know what it feels like to be fearful...It feels very real to the mind, body, mood, feelings. But I am a doctor that takes their own medicine. I will be doing this - FEEL THE FEAR AND DO IT ANYWAY. So let's tag along?

 The worst thing you can do is wait for it to “feel right” – that ain’t never going to happen! Don't chase it, it doesn't exist. The only way to feel better is to move straight through it.

Here’s the good news: the other side of your fear feels amazing. Once you walk through one fear, you build the confidence to keep stepping through others. The more you face your fears, the stronger you become at it. This is the path to becoming unstoppable. 


Working with me will get you the clarity and tools that will make you comfortable facing your fears by making yourself stronger. The thing about working with me is that I CARE deeply about my clients and their results in their life. 

When you are ready to do this 1 step at a time, I am here to hold your hand and transform you into the loving women you are meant to be, towards yourself and the relationships you hold. 

If you are ready, say yes to coming to the coaching and try the free consultation call at:

Your new life is just decision away...I trust you will do what is best for you,


Love and Light,

How did I get here?

The view from my office. Feb 2017. Annual goal to have a work-ation (work + vacation) from Mexico (CHECK! :))

The view from my office. Feb 2017. Annual goal to have a work-ation (work + vacation) from Mexico (CHECK! :))

"How did I get here?"is the question most of my clients - professional women ask themselves sitting at work, absolutely unengaged at work, unfulfilled in their marriages or Relationships. 3 years ago, I asked myself the same question.  

What the hell happened that I got here? I work my ass off, I am always giving, giving, giving to others and I just feel so shitty inside. Sure I had a good job that pays the bills, I had a fancy title behind my name but I just felt super unfulfilled. You know what I mean? 

The thought that I could do so much more nagged me everyday. I hated Sunday afternoon anxiety attacks, I hated complaining about my job to my friends. I hated the heaviness I felt going to work being in the elevator with all the people...I felt trapped.

I knew I had to change. Then fear would set in. Can I actually do it?? Could I follow through and not have a resignation remorse?? Could I? My mind had doubts up, it churned my stomach. The absolute worst case scenario went through my head in circles. 


My dad said to me, " Go out and fly! You got so much potential". I high fived him and left the corporate job. 

 (Disclaimer: I have a great relationship with my boss. I love her.  I believe in relationships. Absolutely. We still meet for lunch. But corporate govt job just wasn't for me. Full respect to everyone working there and loving it.) You have got to do YOU.

Today, it's not even 3 years and I'm having tears in my eyes (yes, tears of joy) knowing that I have manifested my dream life. That's why I wanna write this post and tell professional women there is NO FUCKING NEED TO STRUGGLE.  Follow what tugs and your heart and take a tiny tiny step towards what your dream life could be. 

I have had faith when I was really being tested. Have faith in the creator that put you on earth. Have faith in myself. Support from so many people. My coaches. All the great ones and not so good ones.  I've learned from everyone.

As a professional NLP Master Coach, I can take you to your new life with CREATING LONG LASTING changes where your friends and books won't take you. 

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How to be happy in friendships? (Unapologetically)

Have a hard time forgiving someone? Maybe it's time to let go. Let go of what? Let them go. Continue to hold onto some friendships might be draining you, damaging your self esteem. Holding onto grudges only burns us, and not the other person. When people show us who they are or what truly matters to them, we must believe them.

With friendships or anything in life: I'm an "All In" type of person. I can't half ass anything. If I love you, I love you with all of you. I wanna be there for you. I wanna know about your life so I can support you. I wanna tell you about my life so you can there for me. Life is busy but I choose to make time for you. I hold myself to a high standard to love, and cherish and give.

When you invest time and effort in others, see how they treat you. If you don't like how they treat you,  that's the time to stop and reflect and see if you wanna stick around to try 1 more time or many times depending on who it is or let go.

Not being able to let go is so Fucking draining. Make a decision. Then have the courage to delete. Learn the lessons for the experience. Let them go. This is serious personal growth work, self love expression at its best. Have high standards for yourself.

We guide others on how to treat us. Who will you choose? Do you. Always. #postfromtheheart #reflectivesundays