I had a beautiful women reach out to me for a discovery session few weeks ago. She was feeling very frustrated at the time of the call, struggling with her job (managing 2 jobs at work, feeling unengaged, not wanting to go to work and struggling at home with her husband, not feeling loved or connected, and not wanting to go home after work). When she saw the results she could have working together, excitedly she said yes to our work together! I couldn't be more happier for her...as she herself and her life was about to change!
I personally love it when women take ownership of how life has been hard on them (or there lack of no emotional support and they are on the verge of breaking).
Then after a day, I get the email of "I am not too sure and would like money back"
Now, this is SO NORMAL. She definitely was not the 1st one!
When we sign up to change our lives, most of us go in our heads to verify if we made the right decision and our "fearful mind" says...a 1000 What-if's. Then comes the usual war between mind and heart. The heart likes to take risks, longs to fly, wants to feel excitement and do the right thing. But we (me included) are naturally wired to hear the mind....and this gentle soul.....decided to listen to her mind.
Listening to fearful mind....will change NOTHING for her and she will continue to feel safe and unhappy! That was her choice and I honour that that is where she is today.
This saddened me for a day......for her.....It truly did. I care a lot about my clients...most clients turn friends and family for me after their lives change for the better, after they feel like they are a new person. (Check out these amazing women's transformations)
But then I checked myself and thought, "She is doing her best today! This is all she knows and that is what she is willing to do today!" and then I CHOSE to let it go.....like a balloon shooting up in the air and eventually disappearing... (This is personal growth work linked to Attachment)
I only work with committed women that want an amazing life and are ready to "FEEL THE FEAR AND DO IT ANYWAY". I am all-compassion coach when it comes to supporting you to get clear on what an ideal life and career looks like for you...PURSUING the dreams....is not EASY and that is why I DEEPLY HONOUR the women who are "Feeling the fear and doing it anyway", who are stepping out of comfort zones, women who have come to the workshops to be heard and seen and lets not forget the brave souls who chose to pursue our coaching work together! We need more women in the world....that takes a chance on themselves.....that build courage muscles...and take ownership of their lives.
NO ONE IS COMING TO SAVE YOU! NO ONE. You have got to love you....Be the best you can be....for yourself. BEC it fucking feels SO GOOD to believe in yourself and just GO FOR IT.
Listen: YOU ARE AT THE HEART OF ALL EXPERIENCES IN YOUR LIFE. If you don't like the experiences you are having, it means you need to GROW. Period. Nothing else will help.
A new pair of shoes won't help, complaining to friends won't help, more books won't help.....only dealing with fear and taking action would!
Here is what I have to say about FEAR....
Fear is the thing that stops us in our tracks! Fear does keep us safe but most of the time when there is no real safety issue, it kicks in even harder because you have given it power in the past.
Moving through your fear does not feel good! THAT'S RIGHT. Because we are shaking up the old programming. As you work through your fears, you’ll usually feel nauseous, tired, angry, or upset while you are going through the process.
This is your ego trying to keep you safe. In order to deal with these emotions, it’s important that you do radical self care while plowing through your fears. Work with a coach, Get massages, take long baths, do yoga, hang out with people you love. This type of care will give you the energy you need to face those fears.
I think we can call use the learnings here, "For the next 10 days, what type of radical self care I am willing to do so that I can start with facing my one of the smallest fears and start building some courage muscles?"......Consider facing these fears: maybe its going out with no makeup on, or maybe its speaking up at work, or in work meetings about your true thoughts, or saying no, its showing up to a yoga/fitness class....or anything. Find something that you are scared to face and see if in 10 days, you can face it.
Let me know in the comments below, what fear are you willing to face? The fear I am willing to face is...signing up for a fitness trainer. My fearful mind keeps thinking - You won't show up to the classes, don't waste money, or time or effort. What will people think if you don't show up because as a coach, you are not allowed to fail?"....
Can you see how wrong this fearful mind thinks and how wrong it is? I have faced enough of my fears to NOW know that "my mind forecast" is never as reality when I just GO FOR IT!
I know what it feels like to be fearful...It feels very real to the mind, body, mood, feelings. But I am a doctor that takes their own medicine. I will be doing this - FEEL THE FEAR AND DO IT ANYWAY. So let's tag along?
The worst thing you can do is wait for it to “feel right” – that ain’t never going to happen! Don't chase it, it doesn't exist. The only way to feel better is to move straight through it.
Here’s the good news: the other side of your fear feels amazing. Once you walk through one fear, you build the confidence to keep stepping through others. The more you face your fears, the stronger you become at it. This is the path to becoming unstoppable.
Working with me will get you the clarity and tools that will make you comfortable facing your fears by making yourself stronger. The thing about working with me is that I CARE deeply about my clients and their results in their life.
When you are ready to do this 1 step at a time, I am here to hold your hand and transform you into the loving women you are meant to be, towards yourself and the relationships you hold.
If you are ready, say yes to coming to the coaching and try the free consultation call at: www.navscheiecoaching.com/free-assessment
Your new life is just decision away...I trust you will do what is best for you,
Love and Light,