Personal Growth

This made me sad...

 

I had a beautiful women reach out to me for a discovery session few weeks ago. She was feeling very frustrated at the time of the call, struggling with her job (managing 2 jobs at work, feeling unengaged, not wanting to go to work and struggling at home with her husband, not feeling loved or connected, and not wanting to go home after work). When she saw the results she could have working together, excitedly she said yes to our work together! I couldn't be more happier for her...as she herself and her life was about to change!

I personally love it when women take ownership of how life has been hard on them (or there lack of no emotional support and they are on the verge of breaking).

Then after a day, I get the email of "I am not too sure and would like money back"

 

Now, this is SO NORMAL. She definitely was not the 1st one!

When we sign up to change our lives, most of us go in our heads to verify if we made the right decision and our "fearful mind" says...a 1000 What-if's. Then comes the usual war between mind and heart. The heart likes to take risks, longs to fly, wants to feel excitement and do the right thing. But we (me included) are naturally wired to hear the mind....and this gentle soul.....decided to listen to her mind. 

Listening to fearful mind....will change NOTHING for her and she will continue to feel safe and unhappy! That was her choice and I honour that that is where she is today.

This saddened me for a day......for her.....It truly did. I care a lot about my clients...most clients turn friends and family for me after their lives change for the better, after they feel like they are a new person. (Check out these amazing women's transformations)

But then I checked myself and thought, "She is doing her best today! This is all she knows and that is what she is willing to do today!" and then I CHOSE to let it go.....like a balloon shooting up in the air and eventually disappearing... (This is personal growth work linked to Attachment)

I only work with committed women that want an amazing life and are ready to "FEEL THE FEAR AND DO IT ANYWAY". I am all-compassion coach when it comes to supporting you to get clear on what an ideal life and career looks like for you...PURSUING the dreams....is not EASY and that is why I DEEPLY HONOUR the women who are "Feeling the fear and doing it anyway", who are stepping out of comfort zones, women who have come to the workshops to be heard and seen and lets not forget the brave souls who chose to pursue our coaching work together! We need more women in the world....that takes a chance on themselves.....that build courage muscles...and take ownership of their lives.

NO ONE IS COMING TO SAVE YOU! NO ONE. You have got to love you....Be the best you can be....for yourself. BEC it fucking feels SO GOOD to believe in yourself and just GO FOR IT.

Listen: YOU ARE AT THE HEART OF ALL EXPERIENCES IN YOUR LIFE. If you don't like the experiences you are having, it means you need to GROW. Period. Nothing else will help.

A new pair of shoes won't help, complaining to friends won't help, more books won't help.....only dealing with fear and taking action would!

Here is what I have to say about FEAR....

Fear is the thing that stops us in our tracks! Fear does keep us safe but most of the time when there is no real safety issue, it kicks in even harder because you have given it power in the past. 

Moving through your fear does not feel good! THAT'S RIGHT. Because we are shaking up the old programming. As you work through your fears, you’ll usually feel nauseous, tired, angry, or upset while you are going through the process.

This is your ego trying to keep you safe. In order to deal with these emotions, it’s important that you do radical self care while plowing through your fears. Work with a coach, Get massages, take long baths, do yoga, hang out with people you love. This type of care will give you the energy you need to face those fears.

I think we can call use the learnings here, "For the next 10 days, what type of radical self care I am willing to do so that I can start with facing my one of the smallest fears and start building some courage muscles?"......Consider facing these fears: maybe its going out with no makeup on, or maybe its speaking up at work, or in work meetings about your true thoughts, or saying no, its showing up to a yoga/fitness class....or anything. Find something that you are scared to face and see if in 10 days, you can face it. 

Let me know in the comments below, what fear are you willing to face? The fear I am willing to face is...signing up for a fitness trainer. My fearful mind keeps thinking - You won't show up to the classes, don't waste money, or time or effort. What will people think if you don't show up because as a coach, you are not allowed to fail?"....

Can you see how wrong this fearful mind thinks and how wrong it is? I have faced enough of my fears to NOW know that "my mind forecast" is never as reality when I just GO FOR IT! 

I know what it feels like to be fearful...It feels very real to the mind, body, mood, feelings. But I am a doctor that takes their own medicine. I will be doing this - FEEL THE FEAR AND DO IT ANYWAY. So let's tag along?

 The worst thing you can do is wait for it to “feel right” – that ain’t never going to happen! Don't chase it, it doesn't exist. The only way to feel better is to move straight through it.

Here’s the good news: the other side of your fear feels amazing. Once you walk through one fear, you build the confidence to keep stepping through others. The more you face your fears, the stronger you become at it. This is the path to becoming unstoppable. 

 

Working with me will get you the clarity and tools that will make you comfortable facing your fears by making yourself stronger. The thing about working with me is that I CARE deeply about my clients and their results in their life. 

When you are ready to do this 1 step at a time, I am here to hold your hand and transform you into the loving women you are meant to be, towards yourself and the relationships you hold. 

If you are ready, say yes to coming to the coaching and try the free consultation call at: www.navscheiecoaching.com/free-assessment

Your new life is just decision away...I trust you will do what is best for you,

 

Love and Light,

My #1 secret to feel FREE Now. Feel free to copy.

Focus on systems more than goals. Have vision that excites you so much that you can't wait to get up and attack. Time is just an illusion. I focus on progress goals, take time to celebrate success. Bec we are so focused on - onto the next thing. And the next. Like a hamster on a wheel.  Don't know why we got on the hamster wheel. It'd madness. Stop. That's right. Catch your breath. Take a look. How far you have come. Wow. Isn't it amazing? The view looks great from here. Thats right. Stay in this zone just for few more seconds...You have inspired someone last year. Your compliments made a difference. Those flowers you gave made their day. The time you chose to pay attention to your loved ones instead  of your phone brought you closer than ever before. And it's 1:23am in the morning and I just finished watching "Gilmore girls" show from 1990s and I'm feeling pretty darn good. And creative. Hence this post. So what was I talking about....right! Celebrating all the beautiful things and people in our life.

All those times when you picked up the phone to call your mom. Or dad. When you felt good hearing their voice or their hugs felt good. Remember that time? I know you do! And the time you went to go visit your grandma; you know she really appreciated you taking time out to see her,  to hear her about her weeks and stories she shared with you about her childhood, ones that you coukd listen to for hours. Good times! It's starting to feel good, isn't it? This is the life we live, in moments of joy, where little things are actually big things. And remember the time you chose to let go of a friend or a relationship that was no longer there for you...except that time when it's convenient for them. Good for you to step up and say no more. Because you let that friendship/relationship go, you created room for others to flourish.  You have inspired someone last year. Your compliments made a difference. Those flowers you gave made someone's day. The time you chose to pay attention to your loved ones instead  of your phone brought you closer than ever before.


And it's 1:23am in the morning and I just finished watching "Gilmore girls" show from 1990s and I'm feeling pretty darn good. And creative. Hence this post. So what was I talking about....right!


Celebrating all the beautiful things and people in our life. Good job on that part. Sometimes the last year was just a "WTF" moment. Well a couple of them. Ha! Who am I kidding?

And that time when someone wronged you and you got cheated especially when you given so much of yourself into it? Yeah it showed up for some really intense spiritual growth. And you did learn the lessons and you have soldiered on in your life. That's right!! Damn right...Yep..i said "right" 3x now. You can count. No worries.


Remember that time you messed up really bad? Like embarrassingly bad. Or at least it seemed like the end of the world at the moment and now it's just kinda "Not as bad". You know why it's not so bad because you hunny had, growth! That's right. Painful at the time, oh so painful but it does bring a new layer out, that you didn't know you had in you. Now you are stronger.


Life is always happening. I wanna give you props for living the best 2016 you could have lived. This year won't come back. So let go of the heartaches, headaches, sadness, depression (we all go through them...we sometimes get smacked in the face to fall way way down...downer than we thought...bit then we come back with compassion and humility...and it's all good if you are still down there. There is no wrong or right place to be....because you are exactly where you are meant to be.


Ok got kinda stoic there!!!


You still reading? Good. 😊 💕 High-five for reading this far. Bec it takes a skill these days to keep reading long posts.


Let's continue to do what matters. Let's fill more hearts with generosity.  Bec the more we give, our joy multiplies. And not bec 2017 is here, just because we can. And we should try something new at least once. Who knows you might like it and stay on with it.

Let's say "Fuck no" to people or things that don't matter much or suck the energy right out of you. You know what or who I am talking about. That's the thing, we all have this in our life. Take the learnings and move on. Learn what matters to you, get clear on what you are chasing and why?, Question everything! Religiously. Seriously! I'm not kidding. Question: Why do I watch Netflix?  Why is Netflix addicting? Is what I'm watching lifting me up or keeping me down in the dumps. I've been through both situations so I know what it takes to make the courageous choice. You can do it too. I believe in you.


And get over yourself. Over your accomplishments and failures. There are only 2 people at this party - your body end your ego. That's it. Let's stop these parties and focus on serving. No one cares about your medals. Your spirit flies and your joy multiplies when you give, serve others.


Wake up. We took birth on earth to fulfill a purpose...no not life purpose. I'm so sick of talking and hearing about life purpose. No such thing. It's another hamster wheel that's being programming into our little computers, aka our minds. I'll give you a hint - it's about knowing "Who Am I". If I give the answer right away, you won't believe me. It's ridiculously simple. Bec truth is simple.


2017 I will welcome:

Watching sunrises with hubby

Getting up at 4am holy hour to meditate

Lots of Quality time with family  (another least 2x another least week)

2x a month talking to Grandma

A dinner and a movie date with myself

Vlogging about my day to day life on YouTube

Tony Robbins Experience live event

Road trips with Ryan and Buggu

Slowing down

3 day weekends to rest and bubble baths

Naps!!!

5X a week workout

Serving > 100 people

Speak about what matters; something that takes courage

Do something crazy that I can't even think about what it would be

Be there for girlfriends

Keep in touch with cuz far away

Dog park dates with buggu

Grow fresh veggies in our garden

Beach side vacations

Host friends and cook food

Give and get Head massages to/from my mom

Flowers for my mom and mom in law

No tech time after 8pm every night

Pay more attention to hubby than my phone

Take Amrit and live a disciplined sikh life

Summer walks after supper

Imovie video edits pro

Provide empoyment opportunities to an immigrant

Question everything

Do what I want

Break more rules

Put a snake on and get a picture for proof

Parasailing

Go back to India - for a wedding!

Practice detachment

Stay open to much less

Consume less

Read 1 book a month

Implement!!


Because I like to live outside the box. But then again, there is no box.


BOOM.


Peace in your heart, mind and spirit. ❤

On handling heavy energy

Last night was a difficult time for many people, especially Americans 

But the rest of the world is effected too

Because FEAR was the vote

But we need to hold onto the vision of LOVE

and Hope

Here is a prayer I use on handling negative energy in my life:

"Dear GOD/Universe/Nature - I am ready to surrender and let go of this negative energy and transform it into something beautiful and distribute it to people who may need this energy"

It is the most easiest way to tune into the energy of faith and love

I use it when something is really bothering me! 

Take it, use it!

Whenever, wherever

Today, I pray and hope for a better America

With that, till next time :)

xo

How I am able to get up earlier (Power of Accountability)

Today, I am going to speak about the power of Accountability

Accountability is powerful

When you have to call someone to connect over a thing you are trying to accomplish and help someone else get there also, accountability IS THE WAY TO do it.

I want to get up earlier than my usual time

Its been a desire for a while

But I used to be a night-owl and it served me

And lately, I desire to get up earlier - to gain more time, to pray, set a schedule because I think it will make more productive etc. etc.

But I tried to do it on my own and it was working

But was not consistent

Insert a business friend who became my Accountability Buddy who had the same goal as me

For the last 5 days, I have gotten up at one time and it FEELS SO GOOD.

So, is there anything you want to do but can't do it alone?

Don't fret. Find a RELIABLE friend that you care about not letting down. 

I tried family members, too easy!

If you know what I mean ;)

Try it! 

And let us know below what you are working on

If our goals match, I will show up as a committed buddy for you!

xo

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